Ever since we found out we were having a little girl, we have been thrilled. When I say “we”, I literally mean, Paul and I. When we talked about our future we’ve always talked about kids, and both of us thought it would be great to have a little boy first, so he could grow up to protect his little sister. Knowing that we have absolutely no control over the gender of our baby, neither of us felt any disappointment when we found out we were having a little girl. We were over the moon. All we ever wanted was a healthy baby. When we prayed about our baby, we never prayed, “Please give me a boy” or “Please give me a girl”, it was only ever “please let our baby grow strong and healthy”.
Whenever someone finds out we are pregnant, even strangers, they ask if we know what the sex is yet. We let them know it’s a girl, and every single time, they look at Paul to sympathize and try to reassure him. They make comments along the lines of, “Oh little girls can be so much fun too!” “You’re still going to love having a little girl”, “I bet you wanted a boy, but don’t worry, it’s fun raising a girl”.
I’ve always heard these comments, but I never brought them up to him, and I didn’t think he looked into it much. Until we were in the car driving, and Paul said, “It bothers me that people always make comments, that make it seem like I’m disappointed to be having a little girl”. Ouch. I know it’s pretty common, for men to want to have boys. They want to teach them to play sports, and be rough and tough. A lot of men may not know how to relate to having a little girl, because they never were one, but to assume someone is disappointed to be having a little girl is pretty harsh.
From the moment we found out it was a little girl, Paul started making plans. He talks about all the things he will teach Aubrey. He can’t wait to take her fishing, and on bike rides. Just because we’re having a girl, doesn’t mean she can’t learn how to fish, hunt, throw a ball, and do things boys do. She is going to love getting to spend time with her daddy. Sure, she may lose interest in some of those things as she grows up, but that doesn’t mean Paul can’t spend quality time with his daughter teaching her all sorts of things.
So no, we aren’t having a boy, but Paul doesn’t need any sympathy, because we are having a little girl, and he’s so excited about it. I just have this feeling that she will be a daddy’s girl through and through.